Again your Spanish frind. Thanks for your answers. Maybe you've answered a similr question. Dothe 3 of you live together? Do you live with your husband and son? Is sex more important in any of the two relationships you hve got? Thnk you very much
:) The 3 of us do not live together. I live with my Husband and son and my boyfriend lives with a friend of his. Sometimes I wish we all lived together and other times I’m quite glad we do not. So it works for us currently. As for sex…hmm, tricky question. No, I don’t think its more important on one side or another and if it is unbalanced like that it would certainly be a problem for us. If either guy were Asexual than it would be one thing but both are very not. I will say though that I sometimes have balance issues between the physical relationship with my husband after 6 years vs the first year NRE relationship with my boyfriend. But I’m working on that.
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So now that Dodo bird shoot is over I have a little down time. Not….haha. Husband’s birthday is TOMORROW! We went out for dinner last night and tomorrow we hope to hit up some of our favorite bars for various birthday perks *Free beer/T-shirts etc* LOL we have been wanting to do this for years and never gotten around to it, so providing we get childcare its totally gonna happen! Then this weekend we are going camping! Next week is Boyfriends birthday too! Yes….they are literally 9 days apart. So this weekend’s camping adventure is a dual birthday celebration, I’m excited!
I still cannot believe both my partners are Geminis, and their birthdays are 9 days apart. Its pretty wild…
I'm again your Spanish fan of you. Thanks for your answer. Another question: Who was the first of you who discover the polyamory? Were you, your husband, both?. Was it hard for any of you?
Oh it was certainly difficult. I was the one who recognized that I had fallen in love with another person and I had been suppressing it for a full year before anything ever happened. Durring that year I came to terms with the fact that I was in love with two people, and I brought up the subject of Polyamory a few times to my husband to “test the waters” and the conversation never went well. He didn’t understand how someone could love two (or more) people at first and didn’t want his relationship to be like that. After a year of him watching me obviously contain feelings towards my now boyfriend he came to a breaking point and asked me to be honest with him. I was, I told him I as in love with them both but I knew I couldn’t act on it because he wouldn’t like it. He and I had a few very long talks and he decided that this was just who I am and he still loved me even if I were to have a boyfriend too. A week later I told my boyfriend and he and I began dating instantly. Yes we have a lot of the normal difficulties….Husband dealing with me being all puppy love with boyfriend, Me having a hard time balancing attention, boyfriend being the jealous type and learning to loosen up a little. But the boys get along and have always respected each other so I truly couldn’t ask for anything better. I love my life, even if its difficult sometimes <3